Nobody Owes You a Damn Thing
Why care about society? Why prep? Why be a good parent, child, spouse, worker, or employer? Activism comes with the realization that nobody owes you a damn thing.
We should be grateful for those things that we have because they are not owed to us. We should be the people we don’t have to be.
Some People Who Don’t Owe You
- Your children do not owe you love, respect, time, or assistance even if you’ve done the very best you can for them.
The most you can do is raise loving, respectful, and helpful children who enjoy being around you.
- Your parents do not owe you love, respect, time, or assistance just because they made you.
Be glad for what they do and did, even if it’s just that they made you.
- Your wife or husband does not owe you fidelity, loyalty, a clean house, dinner on the table, financial support, or equal responsibility for the kids.
Hopefully you married someone who will back you up even if you stop liking each other.
- Your friends and neighbors do not owe you assistance even if you’ve helped them before.
If you have fair-weather friends, that’s your fault. Look at who you hang with.
- Your extended family does not owe you assistance.
Blood can be a deep river, but that only works if you’re a river rafter. Also, there’s an awful lot of seasonal streams.
- Your employer and clients don’t owe you money or respect just because you worked for it.
You control who you work for.
- Your contractors and employees don’t owe you good work just because you’ve paid for it.
It’s up to you to find service providers that are trustworthy.
- The community does not owe you an ear for your thoughts or support in bad times.
We don’t have to listen to you or help you out when things go south. You need to say important things and prepare for bad times by yourself.
- Big business does not owe you uncontaminated food, products made without oppression, or environmentally responsible operations just because you buy from them.
They’ll do whatever they can to save a penny for their pockets, and it’s up to you to figure out how you vote with your dollars. If you want social change, you have to make it.
- The government does not owe you constitutional rights or the ability to support your family.
We have those rights because like-minded people made it so, and it’s up to you to keep it so. And no matter how the government acts, the family needs to eat. If you want political change, you have to drive it.
- The world does not owe you clean ground or air.
Most of the time, it comes that way, but it’s a reactive system and could just go sideways with or without people. Volcanos aren’t personal or discriminating.
- God and the universe do not owe you existence now or after death.
You’ve been granted some time here, do with it what you will.
Nobody Has To Be The Rock
None of the people around you have to do what they do for you. Life doesn’t come with a supply of smiles, laughs, and good times. Even just being okay is often a gift being given to you.
You have to make your own purpose. You can be the rock that everyone else can cling to during high tide or you can be just another lost swimmer.
Don’t blame anyone for anything. Don’t rely on anyone else to do what needs to be done. There’s no formulas or prescriptions to win or to be happy. If one road doesn’t lead to where you want to go, it’s on you to find a new road. You don’t have to be anything for anyone, but you’ll be one of the very best if you consciously choose to be.
You’re a grown person. Whatever happens isn’t because of other people. It’s because of you.
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